Getting Enough Personal Time

Alex Koupal • August 2, 2023

How can I get time to myself?

Life is a series of constant ups and downs, complicated relationships, and lots of responsibility.  Spending time alone can be incredibly helpful to navigating these uncertainties!


What is personal time?

Real personal time is any time where your thoughts can flow freely. It doesn't require you to be completely alone, but it's a place where you are not influenced by others and can be open and honest with yourself.


Benefits

When you spend time alone, you're giving your brain an opportunity to relax. It's a chance to think about what happened during the day, how you felt about it, and what you might want to do next. This can help you plan ahead and make better decisions.


Being alone can also improve your creativity. Instead of relying on other people or an electronic device, you are essentially forcing your brain to use the environment and its own resources to entertain itself. Furthermore, without the influence of other people and opinions, you'll get a better idea of who YOU are and begin to enjoy your own company. It's like becoming friends with yourself!


How to find time for yourself

While it's easy to see the benefits of personal time, many of us lead incredibly busy lives, and may struggle to find opportunities to spend any time alone.  The good news is, even just a few minutes a day is beneficial.


You don't need to have an empty schedule, just learn to identify the moments you already have available. Consider putting your phone down on your lunch break, or sitting outside for a while after putting your kids to bed. Communicate with those around you and let them know you'd like to take a few minutes to yourself! If you need help finding opportunities for alone time in your hectic life, or creating the environment to do so, book a free call with us!


Personal time is beneficial to anyone in any job or life situation. It allows you to gain perspective and make some important decisions that may otherwise be influenced by those around you. While it's important to connect with people and be open-minded, a few minutes of alone time can help you immensely in leading life based on YOUR goals.


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