Why Doesn't My Kid Want Their Drivers License?

Alex Koupal • May 30, 2023

The Changing Landscape of Driving

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"Why doesn't my young adult want his driver's license?"  is one of the most frequently asked questions I get from parents.  To which I usually answer... "Why would he?"


I know this isn't the answer parents expect, but it's the reality of the new world we live in.  Unlike previous generations, many young people today are hesitant to obtain their driver's license and embrace the open road. Here are some of the reasons I hear from the young adults I work with.


Accessibility to Friends and Services: One major factor contributing to the decline in young drivers is the increased accessibility to friends through social media and messaging apps. Virtual connections provide a sense of social fulfillment without the need for physical transportation. Additionally, the rise of food delivery services like Instacart, Amazon and Uber Eats eliminates the need for young adults to venture out for shopping, meals, and snacks further reducing their motivation to drive.


Rising Anxiety Levels: The current generation faces higher levels of anxiety and stress compared to previous ones. Blame it on social media, covid, technology, greater mental health awareness, or whatever the young adult attributes it to.  The thought of operating a vehicle in traffic or facing the responsibilities associated with driving can induce anxiety in many young individuals. This anxiety can hinder their desire to obtain a driver's license and take on the associated challenges.


Ride-Sharing Programs: The emergence of ride-sharing programs such as Uber and Lyft offers convenient and affordable transportation alternatives. Young adults can easily summon a ride with just a few taps on their smartphones, eliminating the need to navigate traffic, find parking, or worry about maintenance costs. Ride-sharing has become a popular choice for this generation seeking hassle-free transportation. Plus they can multi-task in an Uber, answer emails or do homework instead of driving.  In reality, who wouldn't want a personal driver?


Declining Desire for Car Ownership: Young adults are increasingly shying away from the financial burdens and responsibilities of car ownership. Car payments, insurance premiums, maintenance costs, and fuel expenses can strain their budgets and limit their financial freedom. This generation is also a lot more conscious of their carbon footprint and any opportunity they have to reduce this, they are interested in alternatives.   As a result, many young individuals are opting to forego car ownership altogether, relying on alternative transportation methods instead.


Absence of Drivers Ed in Schools: In the past, driver's education was a standard part of the school curriculum, providing young people with the necessary skills and knowledge to navigate the road safely. However, due to budget cuts and shifting priorities, driver's ed programs have become less prevalent. Without the hype and social pressures from peers at school and a lack of formal structured training, young adults may feel less confident and more apprehensive about driving, further reducing their motivation to pursue a driver's license. Not to mention, so many young adults I work with that do want their license, put it off, because they don't even know where to start.


While this shift may seem concerning to some parents, it's essential to understand and respect the choices of the younger generation. As times change, so do the attitudes and preferences surrounding independence and transportation. Encouraging open discussions and exploring alternative modes of transportation can help bridge the gap and support the evolving needs of this generation.


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