Coping with Holiday Stress

Alex Koupal • November 29, 2023

Tis the Season for Stress!

Welcome to the festive season—a time of joy, celebration, and, for many, a fair share of stress.


Surprisingly, or maybe not so surprising, amidst the twinkling lights and merry gatherings, there can be underlying struggles with mental health.  Family gatherings, holding back comments to avoid conflict and forcing relationships during the holidays can trigger big emotions.  Trying to make everything perfect, show up a certain way, attend or politely decline all of the holiday gatherings and parties can be exhausting.  Not to mention, trying to pick the perfect gift for everyone and not still ensuring you're able to pay bills this month is overwhelming.  All of this stress, is perfectly designed to put is in a stressful state, searching for that next pick-me-up or dopamine rush.   It's a perfect whirlwind of stress and anxiety that's created to push us over the edge into the F' It mindset.  Birthing all loss of impulse control, giving way to binge eating, picking up bad habits again such as drinking, over spending and texting that ex you probably shouldn't be texting.   So how do we manage holiday stress and still keep it magical?  Here's a few helpful tips to keep you on track this holiday season:


Setting Boundaries: The Art of Saying No

The holidays often come with a flurry of social obligations and family expectations. It's okay to say no. Setting boundaries is not just about refusing things; it's about respecting your own limits and conserving your energy. It's okay to skip a party if you're not up for it, or to opt out of gift exchanges that strain your budget. Remember, self-care is not selfish, it's a gift you give to yourself.


Mindfulness: Being Present Admist the Hustle

Mindfulness can be a sanctuary in the holiday chaos. It's about being fully present and engaged in the moment, without judgment. Try starting your day with a five-minute mindfulness meditation, focusing on your breath or practicing gratitude. When you're out in the holiday rush, take a moment to notice the sights, sounds, and smells around you. This can help ground you and reduce anxiety.


Exercise: Your Holiday Stress-Buster

A tried-and-true stress reliever. You don't need to run a marathon; 15 min body weight workout in your Livingroom, or even a brisk walk in the crisp winter air can do wonders. Exercise releases endorphins, and 15mins after a burst of energy such as a sprint or HITT workout, your body increases Testosterone, releasing dopamine, which is a neurotransmitter in your brain responsible for your feelings of pleasure!  So put on your favorite holiday tunes, go for a jog, dance around the living room,  do some push-ups, or take a peaceful walk to admire the neighborhood lights to get a boost of energy and happy hormones.


Seek Support: Don't be Afraid to Solicit Help

Sometimes the best gift you can give yourself is a support system.  If you're struggling to cope, consider reaching out to someone who can help.  A mentor, parent, best friend, partner or even a hired professional.  Consider reaching out to a personal trainer, a councilor, therapist, or even a life coach.  Sometimes having a neutral third party that can see your situation without an emotional bias, is exactly what you need to gain clarity and direction.  A hired professional can help you keep accountable and make sure you're supported when setting boundaries.


Embrace the Season with a Balanced Approach

The holidays don't have to be perfect to be enjoyable. By incorporating strategies like exercise, setting boundaries, practicing mindfulness, and seeking professional support when needed, you can find a healthier, more balanced way to experience this festive season. Remember, it's okay to take a step back and focus on what truly brings YOU joy and peace.


If you're in need of support but not sure where to go, Book a Free Consultation with one of our coaches. We have a plethora of resources, including priority booking with several therapists and councilors.


From all of us at Alimental Life, we wish you a stress free holiday season filled with warmth, joy and wellbeing.  Happy Holidays!

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